I’ve received a few comments recently about my poor spelling and grammar issues. This has prompted family and friends to ask what I think about the criticism I have received on this blog and why I approved such comments.
Here is an email I received from my Dad this morning:
A couple of times, I’ve read in your comments, people mentioning your use of English, punctuation and comments like “are you dyslexic?”.
Love the way you deal with them. We share the same limitations when it comes to writing, but you deal with them better than I ever have. It’s something Ive always been quite self conscious of, and been limited by.
Anyway, you should make more of your slightly ‘different’ upbringing. Not much school, it sometimes shows, but fuck you are DOING IT and LIVING THE DREAM.
Thinking about ya mate
Here is what I think;
You can’t be good at everything
Although I would like to improve my spelling and grammar, I sort of just accept that this is something I’ll never be that good at. We can’t be good at everything, so we might as well concentrate on improving the areas that will make a difference to our short/long term goals, or improve in the areas that interest us most. After all, life is to short.
Who’s the criticism coming from?
I learned at a very young age that there are more losers in this world than there are winners, so I have always tried to pay attention to the winners, while brushing the losers to the side. This is especially true when it comes to criticism and advice.
Would a winner waste their time picking at others on the internet? Probably not. This explains why I don’t take these types of comments, or the people who leave them, seriously. Constructive criticism however, is a different ball game. I thrive on constructive criticism – and think more people should embrace it.
Have a bit of confidence
I left school with next to no education and was brought up with no money, but here I am traveling the world while building financial freedom for myself. I consider myself one of the luckiest guys in the world. I have an amazing family, the best set of friends anyone could wish for, a missus I’ve been with for 4 years who supports what ever I want to do and above all; I HAVE TIME. I have the time and resources to DO WHAT EVER I WANT. If I wanted to fly to New York for lunch tomorrow, I could. If I wanted to take a year out and learn to write English properly, I could. That’s powerful stuff.
Would I have all this if I listened to everyone that has given me advice over the years?
1. Accept that you will not be good at everything
2. Be very careful who you take advice and criticism from
3. Have a bit of self confidence.
If people can’t accept that my spelling isn’t that good, then that’s cool with me – they can just move on to the next blog where the spelling and grammar will no doubt be a lot better than what they would find here.
Question of the day
How do you deal with criticism?